I don’t say the same things I say to my black friends that I do to my white friends.
I think like a history of white people and people of color not having positive interactions, is like, absolutely at play. My like black friends say they don’t talk to me the same way they talk to their black friends. That makes me feel not good. That makes me feel like they, like they can’t say certain things to me. Or I won’t get certain things that they say. But I feel like I’m a pretty chill like person right, like you can say things to me right. Like I’ve heard it on TV, like you know.
I don’t know, and maybe, maybe I’m not at, on level with some people that they can feel that comfortable. But I always challenge this idea of code switching because I think that we all code switch in our own ways. I’m code switching right now, I’m in interview mode, right? When like we’re done and were just going to chat were going to have code switched into friend mode, right? And so, I think this term was coined as a description of the way, or, the need for people of color or specifically black people to change the way they speak so that they look more, or sound more and look more respectable or more… like at the level of white people. That’s the way it’s been described to me. And so that like history of like needing to change for… but then like how can I say like “oh don’t change for me” if I’m changing for them, right? Like I don’t say the same things I say to my black friends that I do to my white friends.